My name Lola. I’ve been in a
relationship with Julius far longer than I can remember. Yet something in my
gut tells me that I should leave, that this isn’t right. I know I should, I
know… but I just can’t!
You see, he’s a really
good guy. He treats me nicely and he loves me (he doesn’t fail to tell me that
every day) but he’s got a big problem: he cheats on me almost every time! And
from what I see, he can’t help himself.
I have managed to stay
with Julius this long, it hasn’t been easy but I’ve gotten comfortable in this
relationship because we’ve been together for so long and all my friends and
family know about us.
Until he started
talking marriage!
Now I know it’s time to face my fears. But in all honesty, I’m afraid. I know deep down in my heart
that I won’t be happy being married to him because of his philandering ways,
but at the same time, I’m afraid that I’ll
be miserable on my own. This could be my only chance of getting married. I am
32 years old for Christ’s sake! Almost everyone my age I know is married or
planning one.
I’m at cross roads! I
need help/ advice urgently!
RelationshipTv Counsel
Dear Lola, thanks for speaking up. There are many people in your situation, hopefully they will also benefit from this advice.
Firstly, you said "something in my gut tells me that I should leave". This sounds like a major red flag which many people in your shoes encounter but fail to appreciate.
Also, you mentioned that you know deep down in your heart that you will not be happy with this marriage.
Usually, your feelings for someone can cloud your judgement and blind you to the truth, but your unbiased guts will always tell you the truth.
If someone is a serial cheat while you dated him. What makes you think he will miraculously be transformed after marriage.
An omelet is only as good as the eggs used in it. If one is rotten, the omelet becomes bad. Our advise...follow your guts.
Any man that does not fear God does not have what it takes to love a woman unconditionally.
For further help send a mail to counselling@relationshiptv.com.ng
RelationshipTv Counsel
Dear Lola, thanks for speaking up. There are many people in your situation, hopefully they will also benefit from this advice.
Firstly, you said "something in my gut tells me that I should leave". This sounds like a major red flag which many people in your shoes encounter but fail to appreciate.
Also, you mentioned that you know deep down in your heart that you will not be happy with this marriage.
Usually, your feelings for someone can cloud your judgement and blind you to the truth, but your unbiased guts will always tell you the truth.
If someone is a serial cheat while you dated him. What makes you think he will miraculously be transformed after marriage.
An omelet is only as good as the eggs used in it. If one is rotten, the omelet becomes bad. Our advise...follow your guts.
Any man that does not fear God does not have what it takes to love a woman unconditionally.
For further help send a mail to counselling@relationshiptv.com.ng
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